Confession time! I'll be the first to admit, social media can be a good thing, something I love most about it is being in touch with all of you! Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, all serve a very real and valuable purpose if used responsibly, BUT like most good things, it's not all good, all the time. Let’s be real with ourselves ... we can get lost in there.
If you're anything like me the social media bug can bite you around bedtime when you can't sleep. You swear you'll only be on for 10 minutes, 20 minutes tops. Meanwhile, an hour (or more) later, you find yourself somewhere in the deep dark corner of of cyber space mindlessly clicking on “25 transformations you won’t believe” about people you’ve never heard of nor care about and you have no idea how you got there!... ok maybe that’s just me... but I’m sure you relate on some level lol.
I’m realizing I needed to change this, I decided to observe my own behavior and those around me when it came to social media vs life... like the live and in person life. I noticed dinners were just people sitting at a table on their phone, I noticed I couldn’t sit through a movie without being THAT person that checked for a text... I even noticed I’d be on a phone call and scrolling through the gram... I mean come on...that’s awful!! Probably the biggest reality slap was losing my phone on the day of the Season 25 finale. In my mind, it was for sure the worst day to lose it. I was devastated, I couldn’t document anything, I couldn’t tweet about it... take a shameless selfie...see the likes... lol I actually felt awful that I couldn’t do these things! However in hindsight, a beautiful thing happened... I was present in the moment of the show, I was present in all my conversations afterwards since I wasn’t pre occupied with tweeting about it. I was so present that I enjoyed the day and moment of watching a friend win and remember it vividly, not just in picture on my phone. This realization really got me thinking!
I decided to challenge myself to a day without social media more often. Instead of thinking about it as giving something up for a day, I thought of it as what I could gain. I chose to listen and be mindful of my own thoughts and feelings. Social media has a way of flooding our brains with so many images and ideas that can often fill our head with a lot of negativity. I wanted to give myself a real break, and see how I'd feel if I put all that time spent on social media doing something else! Something that could actually improve me rather then something that could potentially drag me down.
So on those days, starting from when I wake up, I don’t immediately reach for my phone (omg so hard... like the struggle is real). Instead, I wake up and play with duke & daisy, gaze outside my bedroom window and tell the universe all that I’m grateful for and the kind of day I’m going to have. Im out of bed quicker than usual and onto breakfast and hike time. These days have a series of moments that I normally would reach for my phone and scroll through my feed; waiting for coffee, having lunch or walking the dogs. Instead, I immerse myself with whatever I had in front of me, or was around me.
As my digital detox day goes on, I feel I have more time for just about everything. I spent part of the day at home reading on the couch and journaling. I ran errands around town, stopped to chat and had real conversations face to face. That's not to say that I don't do this other days but It's different without distractions.
Social media is a HABIT and I'd be lying if I said I don’t get the urge to scroll throughout the day, but that's when I realize how necessary a digital detox actually is. I appreciate my time more than anything. Distractions aside, basic life is anything but basic. Life is really, really, rich and so are the ones in it. Paying more attention to life scenes than what is on the screen is the biggest takeaway for me.
With the holidays here and a new year approaching, I want to encourage you all to take a digital detox and see how you feel, filling your day with real things. Things that can better you. And whenever you choose to come back online, if you do ;) let me know what you learned and got out of it!
For me, I think I'm going to limit my online time more and spend more moments in real life. Hey, 2018! Here's looking at you!
Happy New Year, Loverz! I love sharing this journey and this life with you all! 2018 is going to be amazing! Just wait and see!
All my love,